Any questions regarding The Lifestyle, please post here and you will be answered by our many great members. Swingers are just about the sex with no emotional attachment. I'd first ask for a blood test. When our relationship was still completely open meaning I could still have guys I still usually ended up having sex with them both on the same day or within days of each other. We both had some of the same hobbies and had the same sense of humor which our wives loved.